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I don’t want to set Sam and myself up as the ideal. The perfect love story is the marriage of Christ and the Church, which is yet to come — all of our human experiences are but dim reflections of that glorious event.
Christ is the only example of ideal purity and we should all be on guard against lifting others to that place, especially writers and speakers who choose to share their stories with us.
Not only are such details very private and sacred between Sam and me, they are also not things that any one couple should publish as suggested guidelines for thousands of readers, because while certain principles are universal, the specifics will vary with each couple’s situation.
Though I said in my first article that there is no perfect blueprint for every couple, by the undertone of the piece I implied otherwise.
We would do well to take our cues from the laws of God’s chosen people.
Engagement should be binding, because you have given your word — and that should never be retracted, except under dire circumstances.
I have since learned that couples who save their first kiss for the altar are not necessarily any purer than those who save it for engagement.
“The more you save before marriage, the more enjoyment you have afterwards” is not in and of itself a true statement.
I was indeed employing reverse psychology — to pique Sam Torode’s interest, though I had never met him, did not yet know his name, and did not expect my future husband to write a critical response in return. On January 14th, 2000, Sam and I met face-to-face for the first time, went out to dinner, and talked for three hours.“When my husband kisses me, I know it will be praise that goes straight to heaven.” With those words I snagged a husband.In August of 1999, Boundless published my first article, entitled “(Don’t) Kiss Me.” The gist of it was that Christians need to take kissing more seriously, and I shared my own personal vow to save my first kiss for my wedding day.Many people, including myself, have said that there are only two states of romantic involvement outlined in the Bible — singleness and marriage — and that there is no room in-between for physical interaction. To self-disciplined, engaged couples, I would highly recommend admiring the beautiful gift of each other’s legs.In our culture, engaged couples desperately need to retreat from the world and redeem their Hollywood-polluted views of sex.
This is referred to in Matthew , where Joseph is called the husband of Mary, though he has not yet “taken her as his wife” or consummated the marriage.